b8b2af62
we had a long conversation last night. she thinks i'm wasting my potential sitting in front of a screen all day for a company that would replace me tomorrow.
she wants me to teach, or do nonprofit work, or start something. i make 340k TC and we have 2 kids. we live in the bay.
i dont disagree with her philosophically but the math doesnt math. how do you leave a 340k job when your mortgage is 6k/month
anyone else dealt with this
b3feabaa
your wife is right about the meaning part and wrong about the timing. save aggressively for 3-5 more years, hit your FI number, then make the jump. dont blow up your family's financial stability on vibes
e47b02b2
340k in the bay with 2 kids and 6k mortgage is not rich. its comfortable. you'd feel the loss immediately. she might not understand that because she sees the gross number
5565da08
have her look at nonprofit salaries in the bay area and come back to you with a budget that works. sometimes the conversation changes when the numbers get real
c3a5c857
hot take: tech IS meaningful. you build tools that millions of people use. not every meaningful job is a nonprofit. maybe the real issue is that you dont find YOUR specific job meaningful, which is a different problem with a different solution (change teams, change companies, dont leave the industry)
93d9245e
i left a 400k gig to teach CS at a community college. make 85k now. happiest ive ever been. but i also paid off my house first and my wife works. you need a plan
03ebdbb2
"the math doesnt math" is the most bay area sentence ive ever read lmao
